Technology Killing Our Friendships?

So, I think it’s safe to say that almost all of us are in love with social media. If we weren’t, you wouldn’t be reading this right now!

Imagine this……You go out to eat with friends and you barely touch your phone. Okay okay. You absolutely HAVE to post your food when it looks amazeballs. That’s a rule. Seriously it is. I checked.


I’ve been hearing it and reading it in articles about how technology and social media is ruining our friendships. I don’t entirely agree. Do I think that it plays a part in people being less social with “real people” sometimes? Yes. Sometimes you will notice other groups of people when you’re out to eat and notice that most of them are just staring at their phone screens and not interacting with the rest of the group. Like hellooooo….there are actual people to talk to sitting right next to you.


But I won’t go so far as to say that social media/technology is ruining relationships. In a lot of aspects, it is making interacting and staying in touch with friends so much easier because we have so many resources in which to reach out to them. When it comes to hanging out with friends you have to have a good balance when it comes to your phone and your friends.

For example, when me and my best friend go out to eat, we rarely touch our phones. Of course we find time to insta our food and tag each other but other than that we are interacting with each other. And that’s what good friends do! When you have fun people around you, you don’t bother with your phone as much to scroll through news feeds.

Don’t get me wrong. It’s not like I forget my phone exists because I randomly pick up my phone to snap our amazing and mostly random adventures. My point is, if you and your friends or SO are out to eat or wherever…don’t stare at your phone all night. It’s rude and utterly boring for all of you.


So back to the question of is technology killing our friendships? No. PEOPLE are killing friendships. People are ruining relationships. A lot of us have the capacity to make our own decisions and it is up to you to decide to put your phone down and interact with your friends. We all have the option to decide whether or not we want certain relationships to last and social media shouldn’t factor in.

I get it. Sometimes you just don’t want to be social face to face. That’s normal. We’ve all been there. Like when friends invite you out but you’re content with chilling on the couch with Netflix, Instagram and junk food. And maybe just a little wine. Just a little….

……and that’s okay.

We just can’t go around forgetting that there’s a real world out there. We have to exist outside of our social media worlds. Real true friends beat online companions everyday of the week. At least in my book.


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  1. I love this post, it’s very well-written and thought-provoking. I am super attached to my phone and iPad, but I also see how having these conveniences can create a situating where you tend to be too attached. I like your theory that it’s not the technology, but the people. I don’t know how old you are, but I wonder if it’s because we are older and were, perhaps, not born into a technological age (cellphones anyway) and that’s why we can distinguish where the problem lies? Does that make sense at all? Lol

    1. That makes sense lol. I’m 24 and I didn’t grow up with cellphones so yeah I understand where the issue stems from. I’m also super attached to my iPad and computer and stuff but it doesn’t take away from the fact that you need real human interaction lol

      1. So you were like me, I didn’t grow up with cellphones either. I completely agree with you. I just wonder if the kids growing up only ever knowing a life with phones and social media will lose sight of what is really essential in life:real human interaction.

  2. I feel as if when me and my friends hang we are constantly checking our phones to see if we got a text or an Instagram notification… So I feel that yes technology is hurting friendships because no one pays attention to each other any more. The one thing that gets to me is that people are so into their phones they don’t pay attention to what is actually happening around them. They will walk into the streets with headphones in and watching YouTube, along with walking into a pole cause they weren’t looking… I feel that if that is happening to you then you are on your phone to often and you should try to not be on them anymore than you need to. For example if you are watching a movie or out with a friend/ date then you should put your phone down or away along with at least putting it on silent! Thank you for reading this and I am thirteen years old by the way!

    1. Thank you! I agree completely. People make too much of a habit of looking into our phones when we should be focusing on the people that we’re around

  3. I agree too! People are around you at moments like those and you shouldn’t ignore them. But in some cases it might be okay. Like let’s say you and your friends are having a battle to see who is the a digital puzzle app or to see who sings first in a try not to sing battle.Moments like these are the ones where it’s okay to pick up your Phone or IPad. I rest my case. I’m 12 by the wa! <3

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